These are things that would be fun to do but don’t necessarily fit in with the three pillars above. All of these are optional, depending on the comfort level of my partner. I list them here because they are things I would enjoy doing with the right person.

D/s (Domination and Submission)

Virtually everything in the three pillars involves some level of domination and submission; D/s and humiliation are my primary kinks. But what I’ve described above is mainly mental, so I wanted to say that some of the performative aspects are also fun—a woman dressed in black latex or leather and holding a riding crop is incredibly sexy. My partner will always be the part, but it would be fun if sometimes she looked the part as well. 

Pegging And Anal Play

Anal and prostate stimulation is pleasurable, and being fucked by a woman with a strap on instead of doing the fucking would reinforce the power dynamic of her in charge. It would also be deeply humiliating (and intensely erotic) to take my partner shopping at a place like Good Vibrations for a strap-on harness, dildo, and lube. 

Gay Sex

I mentioned this above, but another intensely humiliating (and erotic) act would be to bottom to a man or men while my partner watched. This could be in our out of chastity, but either way, his pleasure would be first and foremost, and I would be the “taker” instead of the giver.

Gloved And Ruined Orgasms

When it comes to sex, a handjob is always welcome but not what men are looking for. In most cases, it’s the bare minimum way to pleasure your partner. This is why being jerked off by my partner while she wears a latex glove (to keep her hand clean) and then ruined on top of it is so humiliating and erotic. There is an almost detached, clinical feel to it. 

Water Sports

The idea of a woman peeing on me, in my mouth, and down my throat is intensely humiliating and erotic. As is the idea of licking her clean after she goes to the bathroom. 

Big (Black?) Cocks

Ultimately, she decides what goes into her body. And, while the fetishization of black men is unfortunate, a white woman having sex with a black man is intensely erotic, especially if he has a much larger cock. But the humiliation of her getting pleased by much larger cocks is not limited to black men, and being asked “are you in yet” or her telling me that she can’t feel me is both humiliating and thrilling. 

Cum Eating

When I am allowed to ejaculate, ruined or not, the expectation that I eat my cum is highly erotic. I could also be expected to eat her lover’s cum where ever it might land on or in her. 

What’s Not On The Menu

These are activities commonly associated with the above that just aren’t my thing, although I would happily partake if she enjoyed them. 

Extreme Sissification

As mentioned above, I don’t want to be transformed into a girl or a sissy. Being a girl is pretty damn awesome, and I fully embrace the feminine in and around me, so there’s no humiliation in being forced to be one. 

S&M (Sadism & Masochism)

Pain can be erotic, but I am not a “pain slut.” I do not need a good beating to be happy, and pain does not need to be a central piece of my relationship. 

Bondage

Like S&M, bondage can be a lot of fun. It would be intense (in a good way) to be tied to a chair while watching my partner have sex with one or men. And of course, chastity is a form of bondage. But it doesn’t need to be central to the relationship. 

Foot Worship

Feet don’t turn me on, and they never have. I love to give foot massages, especially after she’s had a long day. But that’s different from kissing and worshiping her feet. 

Hard Limits

In addition to always keeping things safe, sane, and consensual, these are the things that I won’t do.

Public Humiliation

I am a very private person, so overtly public play is out of the question. This includes going to a restaurant dressed as a woman, logging into work wearing a dog collar, or doing anything that nonconsensually forces strangers to be part of our dynamic. I will never do anything to jeopardize my job or my family. 

The exception to this is willing participants. Her lovers will know that she is cheating on her partner, especially if I am watching or participating. And if we find other, like-minded couples (our tribe), we can be open and honest with them. And I am fine being out with some of her close friends (honestly, that would be intensely erotic). 

Scat

It’s unhygienic and gross, so enough said.

Anything Illegal

This includes kids, animals, etc., and goes without saying.