What I Am Looking For
My next relationship will be one built on a power dynamic where she is in control: a Female-Led Relationship. It will also be one where I am monogamous and devoted to her while she experiences an entirely open relationship: a hotwife/cuckold relationship. It will also be a relationship where I am largely chaste, locked in chastity and only allowed out or to orgasm when she wants me to: a keyholder chastity relationship.
So the three pillars of my next relationship are
- A Female-Led Relationship
- A Hotwife/cuckold Relationship
- A Keyholder/Chastity Relationship
A Female-Led Relationship (FLR)
This doesn’t mean that she is in charge of everything. We’d still be partners, and I would still have a fair bit of autonomy. But, in the end, she would have the final decision in all things. I am not looking for a Master/slave relationship, but rather more of a “shipboard” Captain/first mate dynamic. For some things, she (the Captain) would decide without consulting me, like who does which chores. This doesn’t mean that she would do no chores. Instead, she would assign them without negotiation. I would be consulted and heard on other matters, such as major purchases, but she would have the final say.
This also touches on the critical tradwife/breadwinner dynamic I am seeking. I make good money, and I want to show up as masculine in my next relationship as the provider. I work all day to bring home the paycheck—if not the only one, then the largest—and I am the breadwinner for my family. On the other hand, I want to show up femininely in my next relationship as the traditional wife, or tradwife. Most household chores, including cleaning, laundry, dishes, etc., would fall to me.
Aspirationally, I would log out from work, put on an apron and make dinner, clean up the mess, and make sure she got a blowjob before bed. Her evening would be spent having a drink and relaxing, and whatever else she might want to be doing (see below). I say aspirationally because there’s only so much work I can do before I fall apart, and I don’t want to commit to working myself to death. I am a 50s husband by day. But at night, that role transfers to her, and I become the 50s housewife.
A Hotwife/Cuckold Relationship
In my next relationship, she will be free to date anyone she wants. At the same time, I will remain completely faithful and devoted to her. She can spend the evening sexting guys or going out and meeting them. She can bring men home to have sex with, either with me in the room watching or while I sit alone in another part of the house. She can indulge in whatever fantasies she has, including multiple men at once, creampies, being dominant or submissive to other men, whatever. And I will be available to her when she’s done for whatever she wants.
There are aspects of this that I will enjoy more than others, including a sense of humiliation when she enjoys much larger men. I hope that she will let me provide her with oral sex after she’s had sex, but that is up to her. I hope that she will have me pleasure her lovers, including “forcing” me to be gay, but that is up to her. She is even free to pose as me on gay dating sites and send me out on hookups if she desires. But all of that is up to her.
This is where “sissy” dynamics usually surfiace. I am not a sissy. I am a masculine, cis, pansexual man with a strong feminine side. I am not looking to be transformed into a woman (although cross-dressing and being fucked while wearing women’s clothes/lingerie could be hot). Ultimately, my feminine side is there to amplify, augment, and uplift her masculine energy. She is a Lioness, a Goddess, without me. But with me, she is all of that and more.
The key here is that she has as much sex with as many different men (or women) as she wants, and she has as many mind-blowing orgasms as she can handle. I am also there to pleasure her as much or as little as she wants, however she wants, but she is someone guys love to fuck and we both know it.
Speaking of women, being with a bisexual woman is something that many (most?) men fantasize about. In the relationship I am describing, her sexuality is up to her. I have no preference if she is straight, curious, or bi. She does, however, at least enjoy the idea of being with multiple men at once, and ideally makes it a regular part of her dating life.
A Keyholder/Chastity Relationship
She makes all of the important decisions, she has sex with others, and she controls when and how I orgasm, so it only makes sense that I would remain in chastity. And, honestly, being in chastity is something that brings me joy. I enjoy the feeling of plastic or (preferably) metal enclosing my genitals and keeping me from being able to get an erection.
So, in my next relationship, she will lock me in chastity (or have me self-lock) and then keep the key safe. She will decide when I get out and when I get to orgasm. And she will tease me mercilessly while I am caged, because what’s the fun of being in chastity if I’m not being teased?
Aspirationally, I will be caged for weeks at a time (with obvious exceptions for physical well-being, doctors’ appointments, events with metal detectors, airline travel, etc.). My orgasms will be few and far between and almost always ruined (all stimulation stops the moment before I start to ejaculate).
Why do this? Because, for men, rolling over and going to sleep after an orgasm isn’t just a stereotype. After an orgasm, I lose interest in sex, and things that were a huge turn-on no longer are. I want to be in a relationship where I am constantly turned on, where I feel a near-constant sexual charge and energy. I also wish her to be the focus of my sexual fantasies. I may watch or read porn, but if she is in control then she is going to be the only person I see in my head when think about sex. She should be the only person I am thinking abougt when I cum, ruined or not.
Of course, Locktober (in chastity for the month of October) and No Nut November (NNN) would be annual events.
A natural extension of this and the hotwife pillar would be minimal to no penetrative sex with my partner. I can please her with my mouth (yes, please!) and with toys. I can wear a strap-on to have sex with her. But, in my next relationship, my cock would be inside her rarely if ever, and only to remind me of what it feels like to have sex.
In Conclusion
I’m probably crazy for thinking there is a woman out there who would be into all of this, but I know she is out there, and I know I will find her eventually…
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